Relationship Problems and Advice

3 months for me and I'm still reeling in the emotions. It has gotten much better mind. Don't put a time frame on it mate. You can only put a time frame on your actions, not your emotions. Work out more, stop smoking, cut back on drinking etc. Do stuff that will genuinely make you feel better about yourself introspectively.

DO NOT go jumping into another relationship though mate. Keep yourself centered on yourself. Better yourself through yourself. IF you concentrate too much on getting back on the saddle (like I did), its important to know that you'll wind up a touch sadder in the process.

And too mate, your posts are really short. The internet is a great places to anonymously vent your emotions. If you like you can PM me, or simply post in here, there are other wanting to help. It's an excellent place to vent without having to commit to actual human face-to-face interaction on the subject. That you can save until you're ready

Nope. I do know that on here you will find many people wanting to help you sort through your confused emotions though, could we be of any assistance with that?

 

I wouldn't reccomemd a cliff, too much time to change your mind.

 

That joke... nose-dived

 

To be honest with you, I'm keeping my posts short to hide the fact that I'm actually female :smiley-laughing002: I liked being totally anonymous, but suppose I cant get decent advice if I'm not truthful eh?

But yeah I'm trying to get back into the gym (reinstated my membership last week) still havent been though. Its trying to get the confidence up enough to get out again. Actually going out on a night out is making me feel sick. Heard myself forcing a laugh out earlier, its ridiculous.

No way in * will I jumping back onto the saddle again right now either, thats not even worth thinking about.

I have though, found a house I absolutely love, so hopefully I will get it and move in after Christmas, then can really start moving on. Its absolutely gutting that I left everything in my last flat, new suite, bed, kitchen stuff etc. I made that wee place a wee home and he completely wrecked it.

He's reacting strangely as well. He's acting as if nothings even happened, as if we were never together. Just getting on with his life, loving being back at his mums and going out with the boys, being a complete wido to me, and really just being a heartless *. Is that just a guys way of dealing with it??

Confuuuuuused.com!!!

 

Big mistake mentioning that on here lol! :icon_mrgreen:

 

My thoughts exactly this thread could be closed soon

 

if you cant roll with the big dogs sit on the porch with the pups

 

Get some pics posted up and am sure some of the Bhoys on ere will have you forgetting about this lad in no time

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That's just the way guys deal with it, first couple of months your gutted in your own private moments but you just get out with the boys and put it out around a wee bit.

 

Thanks, that just made it a whole lot better

 

Ah it would've came out at some point :smiley-laughing002:

 

Sorry, truth is they'll always just try and make it out like they're loving the single life etc.

Not usually the case though, especially if you had shared a lot together.

Best advice is just to put on a brave face and move on yourself, whatever happens in the future will happen. For now though, go enjoy yourself. Go out with the girls etc.

 

Yeah I know what he's like so I know, if he's not already doing that, then he will be very soon. Just trying to pretend it wont happen I think. Some people just dont change.

Thanks I'm working on it.

 

This guy has some good advice:

 

I dunno, sometimes I kinda just want to forget it all...and then I don't I just want to be with her.

 

Some of the lads on here,& indeed some of the lassies,
would be better able to help you if, maybe you
expand a little bit on the bolded part:icon_mrgreen:

 

Take the positives from what's happend and move on

The guy sounds like an eejit and you're better off in the long run. You wont waste anymore time on him. Feel sorry for the next sucker.

A new place, new things, new start. No reminders of a failed relationship Re invent yourself

Look up some of your old girlfriends and get out on a good night out. Do some window shopping but you're not ready to buy yet

 

That's kinda what I did. We commit ourselves to moving on quite a lot more efficiently than you lassies.

No contact is the only way forward. You must adhere to it also. Moving on isn't simply saying "I'm over him." The first step is saying "I want to move forward with my life and get over him."

Your life is so much more beautiful than you two together were. You've so much potential. Find it!

How long mate? Need a bit more info chara.

 

Very deep, but totally makes sense its totally tempting to just start again and become a completely different person. Its strange but I've only realised now that when we got together I changed, into what I thought the perfect girlfriend should be. Ended out I let him walk all over me. Now I cant even remember who I was before we got together

So yes, completely reinventing myself sounds good, thank you

 

Your reinvention won't come from you actively trying to change yourself into your preferred image. It will come as you learn to deal with hardship and heartbreak throughout your life. This week, do exactly and only what you want to do. And simply see where that takes you