Depression

I was diagnosed with mild depression in 2009 after a number of family deaths in a short space of time(aunt and uncle,then my dad after being diagnosed with terminal cancer and given 6-9 months,we lost him after 5 weeks,and my last survivng grandparent)What finally pushed me was when our daughter was stillborn at 27 weeks Chrimbo 2008.Thought I was coping but clearly wasnt.
Went to my doc,who diagnosed me,put me on meds(fluoxetine 20mg)and took some time away from work.
Was put on semi-restricted duties as I am in a safety critical post-my bosses were very sympathetic and made sure I was ok.Meds helped a bit and also attended counselling sessions.Also went for walks,kept busy and generally tried keeping my chin up,and spent a lot of time with my wife and son.On the plus side 2010 we had a beautiful baby daughter.
Few months ago made the decision I wanted to come off the meds and did so with help from my doc.
Been a few weeks now and all going well,still odd off day but who doesnt?
Meds arent for everyone,but they may help,also counselling to maybe get to the root of your depression might help too.

 

ahh...Thanks, truly,
and I also thank you for your great posts, too...it made my mind warm...really thanks...
hope all the best for you...

 

Dont post often here, im more of a lurker but this thread caught my attention. My battle with depression is ongoing like many others. I had nothing happen to me to trigger it it just sort of happened! I obviously cant speak for you or anybody else but based on my own experience i believe its so important to talk. I got to the point were i thought about taking my own life but luckily told my parents i was feeling that way and they helped me through it, it was a very bad time indeed but im still here so i know im lucky. I take tablets and see a counsellor, i also personally think it helps to tell people i suffer with depression to try and take the stigma away, altho i appreciate that not everybody would share that approach! I played gaelic football at a high standard before all this but i quit, i have since started training again and am back playing at that high standard and this has helped me unbelivably! It gives me something to work towards and keep me focused, one last thought would be to avoid alchohol, many of my bouts were sparked by alcohol so i decided on the 17th of december to go without, i am now nearly 3months without alcohol and i found this a massive help. This wasnt neccesarily advice more so my thoughts on the subject from someone who knows what your going through, take from it what you will but just stay safe and look after yourself, hail hail

 

Depression?

Has anybody on here been diagnosed with this and if so how are you coping, have you beat it or is it something you just have to deal with? Having a right old nightmare at the moment

 

You need to talk to your family and close friends about your problem and they will do their best to help raise your spirits bud. Also go and see your doctor as it could be something else like anemia or chronic fatigue syndrome. Don't go through it alone mate.

 

Go see the doctor as you will only get worse if you try and beat it alone mate

 

1 in 4 of us have this during our lifetime and many more do not go to see a doctor about it. Speak to your doctor and he may refer you to a psychiatrist for counselling or may even prescribe meds to help.

There is nothing to be ashamed of by admitting you need help and seeking it. There will be plenty on this forum who would also have experienced this illness at some point and would agree that doing nothing and letting things build up will only make things worse.

 

People feeling depressed and someone clinically depressed are two different things that’s why you should talk to others, some doctors are not good at this though as i found out and people sometimes find it difficult to cope with someone who is depressed.
If you’re not feeling good on a given day, low mood, not wanting to do anything, can’t be bothered with your personal health, not washing keeping clean wearing the same clothes day after day eating too much crap or not eating at all staying up very late turning night into day keeping away from family friends not wanting to venture out then yes I would say you have a problem.
Talk to a trusted person close to you seek help or even try web sites or phone help lines that deal with depression.
Don’t bottle it up as it will become worse and you won’t realise till it’s too late.

 

To be honest what you described there i am not that bad but as soon as i wake up i dread going into work and feel like *, my mother has been ill with cancer and all i feel is guilt for being such a * of a kid and knowing that she always stood by me,sorry to go on just not feeling ok

 

Hey dude, talk to someone you have opened up here and that is a massive step. You seem to be a reasonable bloke and playing down the fact your not that bad. Dont let it get a grip on you get some professional help..... Keep yer heid up mate HH

 

Both my parents had cancer, i was in my early 20s at the time and had a young family of my own, i still hate going into work mate and i have been depressed in the past but it comes and goes. Think of the important things in life and think to your self are you as bad as others. Thats what i try and do, still thats how i coped, medication may help but sometimes that can make things more complicated.

You maybe just stressed ouit cos yer ma, or feeling anxious or something because you want things to change and its out your control, just try and be positive and talk to people, if your ma is being treated by a nurse try talking to him/her

 

When I was a kid, my dad got diagnosed with it.

The first thing they try to figure out is whether it is psychological depression (i.e. down to depressing events in your present or past life that are causing it) or chemical depression, i.e. a chemical imbalance in your physiology.

In my dad's case it was the second, and he got medicated to sort out the imbalance. After a rough spell at the start, they finally figured out what meds worked for him, and he pulled out of it. He is still on the meds to this day, and there's been no serious recurrence of the problem. That is actually over 20 years now, and he is in great nick tbh, bright & cheery. No apparent ill effects from the medication, and he sings the praises of it, because he was in a real state at the time, had to be hospitalised cos he was pretty much non-functional.

If you haven't already, see your GP about it - it is not something you need to suffer on your own.

 

Was diagnosed with mild depression 4 or so years ago,after I lost a few close family members(including my father) to cancer,then we were expecting our 2nd child and had a routine scan at 27 weeks,Chrimbo 2008,only to be told our daughter had died-2 days later my wife had to give birth,then bury our beautiful angel a week later(Chrimbo eve)in Linn Cemetery.I took some bereavement leave for 2 weeks,went back to work and thought I was doing ok,until about April I just hit a brick wall,saw my doc,explained the circumstances to her(she was also my dad's doc)and she put me on a course of fluoxetine and signed me off for a month.
Stayed on the tabs for about 3 years and then lowered the dosage myself eventually coming off them(with advice from doc)
I had the full support of my family,as well as my work colleagues and friends.
Talking helped,the meds helped a bit.but I felt it was time to come off them eventually and not depend on them.
I still have off days,but get over them when I see my family and my 2 kids smiling faces(we had another daughter in 2010-attending hossie every 4 weeks for scans and we already have a 6 year old son.)
Hope this post makes some sense/helps.

 

Stay strong bud. Most of us did things as a kid that upset our parents, you're not alone. Speak to someone, a mate, doctor or a helpline. There is plenty of help and support and it's nothing to be ashamed of.

 

You HAVE to go to your G.P,even just to get things off your chest,it's amazing the difference hearing your thoughts out loud can make.
tell them what your thinking,how it makes you feel and generally just sum up the way you are and how you feel your life is/where its going.its not a big deal!you'd go to the docs if you had a physical health problem,mental healthy no different,they are there to listen its there job.
You'll feel better just telling someone,I gauranteed it!

 

Best thing to do in my opinion mate is talk about it, speak to friends, family, anyone that can lend an ear, if you dont have those, plenty here that will listen in a PM.

The doctors is a good option, but again, only in my opinion, I'd leave any medication out, absolutely my own opinion though.

Good luck and PM if you want, suppose the only problem with that though is it's not instant.

Talk,talk,talk is my best advice man

 

what ever you do dont self harm . you feel really stupid after the depression goes . horrible thing to go through but you come out ok in the end . ive been through it few years

 

fukin horrible illness. Battlin the demons myself mate, on meds 2 years. Some days i know the very second that i wake up that its gonna be one of them days and theres no warnin from it, i mean i could go to bed cheery in a good mood but wake the next day and wanna lock myself away from the world. Way i would describe it is like a storm just blows in and washes over me, sometimes its a few days and as quick as it came it seems to go away. Go see your doc mate, mines culminated in a failed suicide attempt, on meds now and in general im better on my meds. One thing thats usually * me up is if i have a heavy night on the booze then my mood suffers for a few days, im actually considerin givin the booze up for this. Like i said talk to your doc mate, mental illness is an illness at the end of the day, dont be ashamed bud, and sorry to hear bout ur mum, im sure she loves you. keep strong mate

 

Been suffering depression for over a year now and its such a * thing to go through, been on the meds for a few months but they do help you to get through it. Life is * * for me right now but im determined to get through this and come out a stronger person. Good luck to yourself pal and sorry to hear about your mum

 

Best advice from all here ...keep talking get the words out your head , when you say them aloud it helps , to everyone struggling and there are lots , times are so hard just now keep going , take a day at a time dont worry about the future , you are special and the world needs every one of us ...