Advice

This might seem crazy but for a few months now i have been really wanting to live in ireland...problem is im seventeen...have to family over there meaning nowhere to stay...i am of course too poor to buy a house and i would need a job. I know this sounds really stupid but im fed up with glasgow and the way my mum and dad have no respect for me but i wont get into that, basically i just want to start my own life over there.. I was thinking if i go to college there they will provide student accomodation and i could get a part time job on the side...but of course its easier said than done, i dont know any colleges over there therefor cant find any websites/courses therefore cant apply...i dont mind where in ireland..and i know this sounds so farfetched but i want to go for it.


Any advice?

 

i think its a great idea.. iv ben dyin to move to glasgow haha.. wel swap..
colleges in dublin are ucd, trinity, dit, iadt, and few more others would be nui maynooth, ucc, ucg .. hope that helps

 

Aye, don't. You think you have it bad here, the economy is just as rough over there. Wait until your financially secure enough to do it, if at all.

 

It's not to do with money mate, its just alot of personal things built up and i just dont see a reason to be here anymore.

I feel id be much happier over there.

 

it is realy bad here but i would say mayb wait a year or too like apply for college for 2011 or 2012 and u will have a better chance you no

 

Probably the best advice you will get in this thread.

Your better waiting till your a bit older aswell

 

Don't do it mate. In my opinion you are way too young to be contemplating
such a life changing move, especially if you are skint with no connections in Ireland. You would be asking for trouble if you do it I reckon.

Try and make up with your Mum and Dad if possible, and maybe devise a new workable plan for the future.

 

Thanks for the advice lads, its just im so fed up here with like not just family stuff lots of different things and i thought of just heading to ireland and starting by myself, mabye i am too young but i think about it atleast 5 times a day and have done for about 6 months now

 

wee man your 17 years old..get yourself a bird ,get out to the dancing ,enjoy life.

thinking about "running away" from what ever it is that you are fed up with will only be worse where ever you go..you have family here,support here ,friends here,a home here
i don't want to patronise you but you need to wait or at least plan what you want to do .running away because your fed up is a selfish thing to do,your parents will worry sick if you go because at the end of the day you are still there wee boy even when your 40 your still there wee boy.parents never stop worrying

get yer self a bird,,join our fitba team even ,,and get your self interested in something closer to home,your 17 there is plenty time to explore but plan it first at least

 

You should be a motivational speaker big yin

Aye sound advice there larkin. ^^^^^

 

I have a girlfriend iv been with her 8 months now and im never out the dancing, i work monday to friday and spend most weekends at parties like a normal teenager...but i still dont want to be here..and these problems arent gonna get resolved if i stay or if i go its been happening for years and i just have had this desire to go to ireland for a while now.

 

You really don't want to do that.

 

Having a son going through the same age group (also have 2 older) I would like to think it is just the normal parental worries. I don't know your exact predicament but hopefully you are just feeling like this because of normal parental concerns like, out partying too much, career oportunities, the normal > you dont do nothing in the house, the attitude etc. Hopefully it is the normal parent nagging, if so, live with it mate, you will find out in the long term that your parents are trying to help you.

 

TBH I wouldn't offer any advice on moving away while someone could still be classed as under parental supervision. 17 and a half aint it?
Hopefully the young man will sort his differences as family is very important.

 

Why ireland especially?

 

When I was the same age I moved from Hobart to Sydney in order to go to uni, and believe me, whilst it might seem like an adventure, it is also pretty daunting going it alone in a strange city. Its a lot of hard yakka as well. Take your time mate. If you were really going to be doing this you should have had alot of these thoughts already mapped out long before now.

It really isn't our place to give you advice, but if you absolutely must I'd suggest not trying to bite off more than you can chew and the move you are contemplating is a huge one. Perhaps give some thought to moving out with one of your pals here in Scotland, even if it is away of Glasgow. Again, that can be a lot of laughs but you will also come to realize how tough it can be to go it alone even in a place where you are familiar and where your family can provide a support network within coo-ee of where you are, if worst comes to worst.

PS - As it just so happens, as I'm writing this Cat Steven's 'Father & Son' just came on my media player, lol.

 

Larkin, my advice would be to just go for it. You're old enough to make your own decisions and moving out of your parent's place is always very liberating. Just make sure that you remain responsible when you move. Applying to a college, getting a student loan, getting cheap accommodation and a part time job should be enough to get you started. I'm not sure if they have them, but the college you go to will have a financial services department and they could have a hardship fund if you were to ever be really low on cash. Good luck.

 

Mate I felt exactly the same, but I went to uni in Glasgow and then moved over as soon as I graduated, I'd recommend you doing the same if it's what you really want.

Accommodation over here is unbelievably expensive and part time jobs are harder to come by these days as well as people take any job they can.

I wouldn't recommend you move over until you've researched it fully for yourself, check out what courses you are interested in, accommodation near the college (you don't want to rely on public transport over here, it's awful) and the availability of jobs in the area.

If it's something you really want to do then go for it, it worked out brilliantly for me, but only once you've researched everything, don't move over blind

 

My advice would be bud, is that there is one thing worse than being skint, and that is being skint in an unfamiliar country, with no friends or relatives as a support system to fall back on, if you get in over your head.

As others have indicated, do your research, homework, and have a Plan A, B, C, and D for all eventualities. The key to doing anything successfully in this world is to be adaptible, flexible and inventive, and just go with your gut instincts.And confidence in full measure. It is all about Confidence.

 

Why not trying to branch out alone in Glasgow first mate, where at least you have a fall-back mechanism? Then, in half a year or a year, you will have the confidence to know you can make it on your own, and if you still want a move, fantastic.

However, if it doesn't work out for you, you won't be nearly so desolate.

Personally speaking, when i moved away for uni at 17, i thought it would be a piece of *.

It wasn't.