Having kids outside wedlock.

Just wondered how many people on here believe that in this day & age how important it is to get married before having kids, now being catholic i understand it's frowned upon by the church, but we don't all live by the book. I personally don't have any children & don't have a problem with couples who love each other bringing up children outside of marriage, life is more important. Many of my good mates have kids without the marriage cert. So just wondered on everyone elses views on this??

 

Nothing wrong with it at all.

 

Think tbh it saves a lot of children from parents splitting because a lot of people have children when not married and split up so easily leaving problems with the child.

 

True. But is it not just the same & as easy as gettin divorced? Just wondered about the prejudice from other parents/teachers looking down on so called ba---rd kids. Its not right.

 

I had mine while married but imo it makes no difference.

 

dosn't matter if the parents are going to split up they will split up nothings gonna change that .

 

my boy is 3 and is the best thing thats ever happened to me.his mum and i arent married and being married wont change anything.maybe someday.there are certain things about the catholic church i think need to change one being children out of wedlock another being contraception and the last being priests allowed to marry or have a relationship.it would rid the priesthood of all the stories that 1 bad priest tarrs them all with.

 

Good shout mate! I heard a story about a lass who used to go to church every sunday with her parents, then got up the duff wi some lad she was dating & had to change to a different parish because of the horrible, narrow minded fools that suddenly didn't want anything to do wi her or her family. Most people want to do things properly but sometimes life's not that simple.

 

I dont think it matters tbh

and on another note isn't everything frowned on by the church these days!

 

don't think it makes too much difference

 

Having children outside wedlock and having children when you're not ready is 2 different things. You could have the most stable, loving parents in the world who are not married for any number of reasons, some just can't afford it because weddings are very expensive.

 

ma lassies 5, ma bhoys r 3 n 1 ...... we just got married a few month ago because it suddenly hit me 1 nite the relationship wis gettin serious lol disny make a difference

 

Does it make a difference legally concerning medical treatments or custody between the two? When unmarried couples split, is there a court-ruled financial obligation to still support the kids, or is it easier to drop out of sight and out of their lives?

 

Even unmarried have the same financial responsibility if there is a split between the parents. Child support keeps track on these and can have money taken direct from the fathers wages.

Don't think it matters whether you have children out of wedlock.. a child can still have a stable secure upbringing under those circumstances.

 

20 years with three celtic daft kids,no it matters not at all.Although the church has now recognised common law marriages.All we need is the church to get a reality check and understand that some gays wish to be practising catholics too.

 

problem these days is most people think its the normal thing ,it probley is to some extent but i gotta admit.i think if the older generation taught kids right from wrong and birds and bees maybe there wouldent be as many kids growing up in a one parent family with a part time uncle every couple of weeks /months

i am a parent with 2 daughters if they came in and said im pregnant i would be devestated and go crazy ,i would want them to be married first not tied down too early in life ,the oppertunities now for younger people are amazing ,the world is a smaller place and they should have a life first before they are tied to the house

i treat gordon as i would my son and i like him a lot because gemma my daughter is happy, that makes me happy,also gordon and i spend time together through the football so i get to know his pals also and get an insight to the people he hangs about with and i gotta say i like all the guys and vice verca so its all good

 

I would never condemn any couple for having a child before marriage. Each to their own as they say. For me personally though if I am ever lucky enough to have any I would like to be married to the mother before we had any. It might be old fashioned but it is how I would like it to happen for me. All I need is to find someone daft enough to marry me first.

 

I always said that I would be married when i had a kid. It didnt work out that way. I didnt and have not come up against any prejudice. I am now married to the mother of my bambino. My daughter was 3 when I got married.

Even when we went to get her christened when she was a few months old, we didnt come up against any prejudice. The priest just asked us if we planned on getting married. Then asked why we hadnt married. We came up with the excuse that it was too expensive. The priest said that he understood that. He also asked us how much we thought it cost to get married. I said about 10grand.

The priest just looked and laughed and said '£48'

 

Personally I wouldn't want to have children before I was married, but I don't think there is anything wrong with having children out of wedlock, each to their own, it's just not for me.

 

A woman after my own heart.